Cultural Dos and Taboos
1. When greeting another person in China, nodding or bowing slightly are the norms, although handshakes are becoming more common. One should ideally wait for one's Chinese counterpart to extend a hand first. Note that introductions tend to be formal and courteous rather than familiar and casual as in the US.
2. Titles and status are important in China, so be sure to use official titles unless invited to do otherwise. Unless one is a communist, however, one should avoid using the term "comrade."
3. Punctuality is important in China in both professional and personal cases, so be sure to adhere strictly to meeting times and deadlines.
4. Do not begin eating or drinking until your host commences. Also, be prepared for lengthy and filling meals since Chinese banquets may consist of twenty courses. In such cases, temper the amount of food consumed so you can manage the quantity of food. You may not, however, want to completely finish all your food since hosts will continue to fill an empty bowl, as it is a sign that the host has not provided a sufficient offering. Alternatively, a completely filled bowl is viewed unfavorably so some balance in between is preferable.
5. Rice is served in bowls and should be consumed close to the mouth. Chopsticks are generally used for most foods (other than rice and soup dishes). Your attempts to use these utensils will be well appreciated although dropping them on the floor when your attempts are unsuccessful is regarded unfavorably.
6. Suggested topics of conversation include sightseeing in China, arts, calligraphy, and inquiries about the health of the other's families. Generally, conversation during a meal focuses on the meal itself and is full of compliments to the cook, as well as fervent toasts.
7. Exaggerated gestures or dramatic facial expressions are not the norm in China and should be avoided. The Chinese also do not gesticulate with their hands when speaking, and as such, visitors should temper their hand motions. Also, do not put your hand in your mouth; this is considered rude.
8. Touching is not acceptable among unfamiliar persons, and generally, public displays of affection should be avoided.
9. When giving or receiving a gift use both hands. The Chinese often decline a gift three times before accepting as easy acceptance is considered to be a sign of greed. One should continue to insist upon giving the gift and express profuse pleasure once the gift is accepted.
10. Wrap gifts in red, a lucky color; pink and yellow, happy, prosperous colors, are also good colors. Do not use white, which is the color for funerals. Clocks and handkerchiefs are not good gifts for symbolic reasons. Gifts of food, including the offer to host a banquet, electronic items, pens, quality liquors and imported items are generally considered to be good options.